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House ≠ Happiness

I recently read Stop Acting Rich...and Start Living Like a Real Millionaire, the latest book by Thomas Stanley, author of the 90's best-seller The Millionaire Next Door. There was one specific part that jumped out as something to share here.

First, let me point out an underlying truth, that hopefully most SMI readers will immediately recognize: there's a lot more to true happiness than incomes, spending habits, and such. Without Jesus, the rest isn't worth anything, whether a person thinks they are "happy" or not.

With that said, though, it's important to also point out that Christians are not immune to the correlations between money usage and happiness. So don't be too quick to discount the way you handle money as a strong influence on the degree of happiness you feel. The great news in this regard is it's the way you carry out your stewardship duties (my choice of wording) that is found to be predictive of happiness in study after study, not the absolute level of wealth or income you possess.

Back to Stanley's book. Throughout it he illustrates the contrast in spending habits between two groups: those with high incomes but low net-worth (big earners but big spenders), versus those with high net-worth who may or may not also have high incomes.

In his chapter on housing, Stanley goes into some detail about the degree of happiness these groups (and some subsets within those groups) report. Most happiness studies find that factors such as health, loving families, and enjoyable jobs are the most important ingredients to overall happiness. But in his studies, even when these other factors were present, there was still a noticeable split in happiness among the high-income group.

Stanley explains:

Much of their dissatisfaction is found in certain choices the have made. Two key choices are neighborhood and house. Both of these elements influence consumption patterns. What if you earn $200,000 a year but spend like neighbors who earn $300,000? You are likely living above your means. As my surveys and studies have found, those who live above their means tend to be dissatisfied with their lives. Conversely, those who live below their means are significantly more likely to report that they are happy.

He goes on to develop the point that the price of the home is only the beginning. When you live in a more expensive neighborhood, the cost of everything seems to creep up, if for no other reason than the spending habits of your neighbors tend to pull yours upward. Few are immune to that tug (and those who are probably are less likely to buy into the more expensive neighborhood in the first place!).

Stanley is hitting on a theme here that we've mentioned before in this blog, namely that absolute income is not as good a predictor of happiness as relative income. To illustrate this simply, someone making $100,000 is statistically more likely to report they are happy if they live in a neighborhood where most of the neighbors make $75,000. In fact, it's quite likely that person could make more money, say $150,000, and wind up reporting they are less happy — if they live in a neighborhood where most of the neighbors make $200,000.

In case you're tempted to think you would be happy in any of those scenarios, given the high incomes I'm talking about, guess again. The same pattern holds whether you cut all the numbers in the prior paragraph in half or double them.

Stanley has this advice for those caught in this trap, or possibly inching towards it without even realizing what they're about to do:

How can these Smiths [those with relatively lower incomes than their neighbors] find happiness? Get out of Jonesville [i.e., neighborhoods with houses that are a struggle for them to afford]! This is an especially urgent message now with real estate prices plummeting and some tempted to grab a so-called bargain in or around an exclusive neighborhood. Never forget that that nice house in the prestigious community will cost you considerably more than the price of the mortgage, real estate taxes and insurance.

Your ego may take a bit of a bruising by admitting that you don't have the income to live among the glittering, but bruises fade with time, and it's almost guaranteed that your satisfaction with life will increase once you are no longer fighting to keep up with those who can simply run faster.

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